Please Masturbate in Your Own Room

Please Masturbate in Your Own Room There is a warning sign in the dorm bathrooms at Miami University that says, in bold letters, Please Masturbate in Your Own Room! While its a fairly humorous warning (and possibly a student prank), this line also seems to be a suitable metaphor for our online world. Of course it sounds vulgar, but, unfortunately, the analogy is apt. Many of us get so caught up in displaying ourselves online that were willing to do just about anything to get attentionâ€"Hey look at me! Look what Im doing! Pay attention to me!â€"as if yelling loud enough will attract and retain a large audience. When shouting in their empty room doesnt work, people often resort to silly stunts and obscene actions: the drunken Facebook pictures, the banal Twitter updates (Im eating a pancake!), the shirt-off-in-the-mirror Instagram photos, the pop-up ads and sleazy marketing, the superfluous cursing in blog posts. All of which is tantamount to public masturbation. People do these things because it gives them instant gratification. Someone might Like a picture of them inebriated and passed out on the arm of a couch. Someone might retweet their silly tweets. Someone might comment on their obnoxious blog post. That modicum of attention, albeit negative attention, can become addictive. And so they feel compelled to do more of the same, upping their gratuitousness threshold each time. The problem is that this doesnt workâ€"not in the long-term anyway. It never does. Sure, yelling loud enough will attract scads of new comersâ€"we cant help but slow down and look at the wreckage, but we never stick around to admire the post-accident clean-up. Similarly, someones public indecency might draw some initial attention, but they will be left feeling empty and alone when people leave the scene of the accident and never return. Like masturbating, some activities are private activities, and they arent meant for public display, be it online or in the physical world. This is one of the reasons the two of us dont write about our personal, intimate relationships online. That stuff is private. Moreover, it wouldnt serve the greater good. And since our focus here is to contribute to people in meaningful waysâ€"to show people how to living a more meaningful lifeâ€"we neednt tell every personal detail of our stories. Thus, we show you our personal livesâ€"up close and very personal at timesâ€"but we make an attempt to leave out the stuff that does not add value to your lives or serve the greater good. Which means (we hope), we show you the applicable parts, the humorous parts, and the aspects that have changed our lives, in hopes that those same things can change yours. We want to make a difference in the lives of our readersâ€"to engage them in thoughtful conversationâ€"that is why we write here, not to show our private parts. Subscribe to The Minimalists via email.